URBAN TRIBES...

So, I started reading this book randomly after picking it up at the bookstore, curious because of the title. After reading the back, I wasn't really sure wtf the book was really about. Regardless, it seemed like something I could appreciate so I got it.

The author Ethan Watters writes the book while living in San Francisco, and being non-fiction, this further intrigued me. Ends up, he coined the term while writing an article for a magazine.

So you ask, what is an URBAN TRIBE?

Well, I am still reading it so I cant give you a total definition, but my take is that is about how our generation has formed communities oof single, like-minded people, that provide the comforts of almost a family-like feel. (look here for a MUCH better idea)
My interpretation of it is basically a group of "single" people that have for one reason or another have not married yet. Its not about being just a group of people that enjoy the same bands, or enjoy reading the same type of books...its much more than that. Its about people (like me) that choose not to marry, have children, "settle down", because of our careers, our dreams, our crazy lifestyles.

Being single these days isn't that tough. Even more strange, my group of friends consists mainly of couples...like 90% of us. Now, people are starting to have kids, twins, etc...are you kidding me? I have no false illusions of being single. I am NOT single because I want to "play the field" or date several different women. Due to my career, I will be moving away from the Bay Area within the year, and unless the woman of my dreams comes into the picture, I dont think its fair for me or my potential partner to have to deal with something long-distant. Also, its not as if I am conscienciously choosing to not have a relationship, I just don't need one. Does that make sense.
I find that even though many of my friends are married now, our URBAN TRIBE is so single friendly because most of us were single when we first met. There is never pressure to go out and get a date for a party, or to show up at a show with someone in hand. The sense of community, family, friendship and loyalty all serve as an almost surrogate partner. Strange...but true!

I looked back at the past few years and realize that I am notorious for dating woman that don't live near me. (1500 miles away, 500 miles away)
WTF!
I think a lot of it has to do with that fact that I need more space than I realize. I know that I can be a needy fucker sometimes, but I am pretty independant and like to be able to do my own thing. Don't get me wrong, I love being in a relationship, but I dont really wanna waste my time searching. I dont really feel the need to...Maybe subconsciously I get involved with these woman because I know I dont have to check in with them, or worry about what they are doing. I always end up breaking up with them, and then feeling like a dick for doing it, but then I tell myself I wont get involved with the whole long distance thing anymore. Fucking lame...

Nowdays, I dont really think about relationships as much as I think about other things...

Hahaha.
Do you belong to an Urban Tribe?